Wednesday, January 12, 2011

It's not either/or, but both!

Cindy at Ordo Amoris is holding a book club discussion for Anthony Esolen's Ten Ways to Destroy the Imagination of Your Child. I'm not at all confident that I'm going to be able to participate regularly or thoroughly, but I did figure I could type out a quick response to the first section.

The first section (not one of the ten ways yet, so I won't call it a chapter) is called "Why Truth Is Your Enemy: Or Gradgrind Without the Facts." I think the subtitle is a good summary, once you understand what it means.

Gradgrind was the utilitarian schoolmaster in Dickens' novel Hard Times. He drilled his students in rote methods, but missed teaching the essence. In an early chapter, he praises the student Bitzer's definition of a horse as, "Quadruped. Gramnivorus. Forty teeth, namely..." (You get the idea.) Meanwhile, there's a circus performer in the room who has "failed" the assignment, but she knows horses backwards and forwards, literally. Dickens wanted to show us that the Gradgrinds of his day (there really were such people in Dickens' time) missed something important about the nature of education.

Meanwhile, yesterday at skiing I heard some women discussing a hot (at the moment) WSJ article called "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior." And today I saw that Cindy linked to the article, so I read it. I have many caveats about the article, especially that I think it's a publicity stunt, but I do know mothers who use the sorts of hard-nosed tactics Ms. Chua mentions. One could say, with some qualifications, that the Chinese mother (at least as defined by Ms. Chua), takes the Gradgrind approach: What counts is what's measurable, what's on the test. Creativity doesn't matter so much. Asking why something is on the test doesn't matter either. These are sidetracks that get in the way of success. Both the "Chinese mother" and Gradgrind are exaggerations, but useful ones in that they illuminate certain logical conclusions.

Our society is in a reaction to Gradgrind, even though it's a schizophrenic reaction. Today's "Western" parents are concerned with protecting their children's intellectual confidence. We don't tend to contradict our children. We don't tend to teach facts or memorization. We'd rather think we and our children are creative geniuses who don't have to memorize or work hard, but conquer the world through "critical thinking." (I put this in quotes because I think there is such a thing, but many exercises by the name don't really teach it.) Given the fear-based, teach-to-the-test pressure of high stakes tests, I really can sympathize with this reaction, but I think it goes too far. It often dispenses with facts altogether. We end up with the worst of both worlds, what Esolen calls "Gradgrind without the facts." Taken to this extreme, we end up with kids who neither understand the earthy essence of a horse, nor know how to describe one through definitional analysis.

What I'd like to propose, and what Esolen does propose, is going beyond the facts. Sometimes I am not so sure in my personal homeschooling journey which needs to come first, the work or the creative inspiration. In truth, I think we all go back and forth. But I'd let intrinsic motivation take a bigger part than either Gradgrind or Ms. Chua would (seriously or not) advocate.

I do see Ms. Chua's point that "nothing is fun until you're good at it." Some "Western" parents act as though they have no choice what their kids do, even if it hurts the kid in the long run. Sometimes you do have to lay down the law with a small child on matters behavioral and academic. But you can lay down the law in small doses, and (though it takes effort, and sometimes lots of effort) you can do it without the parental temper tantrums and guilt trips that Ms. Chua describes herself as having. A parent's job is to be a boundary, but a calm, kind one. And you don't have to emphasize success at all costs, or comparative success.

I also see Esolen's point that skills are tools. Much of twentieth and twenty-first century culture is a reaction to too much rote emphasis, but I think we are rediscovering belatedly (now that we've destroyed so much cultural capital) there is a place for skilled beauty. Cooking, carpentry, sports, academics, and yes, many of the arts, are richer if carried out with finely-honed mental and physical habits. In fact, many of my favorite activities are those that combine creativity with skill.

Esolen makes perhaps his best the point of the chapter under the section headed "Memory, What Memory?" He gives an anecdote about a farm boy in Saskatchewan who used to recite Paradise Lost as he plowed the fields. He then imagines a bureaucrat coming up to the boy, with the intention of arguing the boy out of his freedom. The boy, in turn, forms a moral response by remembering,
"So farewell hope, and with hope, farewell fear;
Farewell remorse, all good to me is lost;
Evil be thou my good: by thee at least
Divided empire with Heav'n's King I hold
By thee, and more than half perhaps shall reign,
As man ere long, and this new world shall know."
This is a student prepared to defend his liberty with a deep and calm confidence, because he has a true liberal arts education.

The extreme position that we have to have either facts or boundless individual freedom makes one of two errors: That a boy would memorize Milton only to make a good grade on a test and get into an Ivy League school, without stopping to think about what Milton has to say about liberty, or he disdains to memorize Milton at all, or even to read him, in which case the default is that he memorizes trivial bits of pop cultural trivia which, without his understanding why, signal his place as a cog in the wheel of the larger society. Either way, the student misses the larger, liberating point of education.

Esolen ends this section with the lyrics of a Rice-a-Roni commercial, while elsewhere John Taylor Gatto makes the same point by telling us that modern schools teach us that the difference between Coke and Pepsi is a subject worth arguing about (actually, my daughter's peers like to argue Mac vs. PC instead). The point is that we all talk about, learn about, worship, and even memorize something--it's just a matter of what.

One of the the more poignant versions of this Gradgrind-without-the-facts phenomenon I have seen was in a CVS pharmacy in Manhattan. The girl behind the counter who was checking me out was, as usual, having a conversation with her co-workers instead of paying attention to what she was doing at the register. Indeed, the job is rather boring, and I'm not sure I could resist zoning out sometimes myself. But the whole time she was checking me out, she was also reciting the lyrics to "Meet the Flintstones," in their entirety, to her friend. Even before reading Esolen, I couldn't help but think, "What if she had memorized Milton instead?"

This question had less to do with the so-called "Chinese" definition of success as defined by a Yale professor, even at that time, than it had to do with liberal education. Plowing is hard work, and possibly boring too, but who would you rather be, the boy in Saskatchewan or the girl in CVS?

9 comments:

Dana in Georgia said...

Borrowing a phrase from the esteemed Phyllis McGinley, I recall that we have to live in our minds so much of the time that they should be well-furnished...

hmmmm, *well-furnished*

I have a pre-concieved notion, and I know that Esolen will eventually get there because he's Christian, but can I keep from blurting it out?

GretchenJoanna said...

Laura, you have explained so much, so well. I don't plan to read Esolen's book, as my children are all adults who seem to have their imaginations intact, but I might listen in on the conversation about it and will probably give it to my children who are now parents. I hope you can continue to contribute.

I particularly like your discussion of our "schizophrenic" reactions: "We'd rather think we and our children are creative geniuses who don't have to memorize or work hard, but conquer the world through 'critical thinking.'"

It seems that what some people call critical thinking is really skepticism, which I learned from John Senior is a really good way to squelch the kind of wondering love that we need in order to learn the essence of things.

From experience I also know that we don't need to accept the either-or that the Chinese mother advocates seem to believe, that "learning is hard work and children don't want to do hard work, so you have to force them." Homeschooling children often have the joy of learning and succeeding in small enough increments, and with the accompanying motivating energy, that gentle discipline and a favorable routine and atmosphere are usually all that is needed to make them lifelong learners.

Unknown said...

Laura,
I thought this was a very well thought out contribution to the discussion and just nice to read. I hope you stay on board.

I find myself vulnerable to the Chinese mother's ideas by the changing landscape of my family.

Quotidian Life said...

My book arrived just last night in Lauren's two-day-late baggage. I made it through just a couple of pages before falling asleep but hope to pick it up today in earnest. I enjoyed your thoughtful post about the first chapter, Laura.

Your discussion about what we might memorize reminds me of something my 18yo said to me about his suite mates in the honors dorm at school. He said something like that they are all pretty smart guys--most of them probably more intelligent than himself. They are disciplined in their studies but where my son differs from them is how they spend their free time. His suite mates usually watch TV or play video games and he reads or goes outside "to play."

Laura A said...

Hi Dana! I like "well-furnished." It has the same feeling of "there's got to be something in that space, so might as well make it of the best quality possible." And yes, he does get there eventually!

GretchenJoanna, I ordered this book even knowing that I'm well into the parenting journey. And I enjoyed it even though much of the emphasis was on boyhood, and I've never been the mother of a boy.

I really like what you've said here about homeschooling. That's a great summary of what I feel it's really all about, and it's also very Charlotte Mason. You knew that, I'm sure ;-).

And yes, I like John Senior, too!

Cindy, I'm really curious: What did you mean by feeling vulnerable due to the changing landscape of your family? I hope you read this comment and post an answer!

Melissa, I have thought about what you're saying many times, likely because my husband often says the same sort of thing. And he lives out his own advice quite frequently, which is pretty amazing considering how much he works.

I hope your son feels encouraged to keep up the good play!

GretchenJoanna said...

The little I read of Charlotte Mason came late enough in my homeschooling efforts that she mostly let me breathe a sigh of relief that my instincts had been confirmed. Before I started in earnest I was reading John Holt and Raymond Moore and picking out what fit with my temperament and situation. Soon a friend gave me "Lost Tools of Learning" and another friend lent John Senior's book, and when I added Norms and Nobility my hodgepodge of thinking took the shape of a vision....and that's about the time everyone grew up and I was out of a job!

beth said...

I haven't read Esolen's book, but enjoyed reading your blog post, Laura. I'm chuckling at GretchenJoanna's comment about the hodgepodge shaping up into a vision about the time everyone grew up and moved on...

That's about where I am. With one still at home and looking back, I am very thankful for Susan Schaeffer Macauley and Charlotte Mason in the earlier years, plus Holt, the Moores, and a few others who helped me connect habit and grace, rigor and delight, academic necessities and personal pursuits. Somehow, we managed to have a pretty good mix and all six have ended up as imaginative, creative, diligent students who learned their times tables and wrote poetry (or whatever creative pursuit fueled their imaginative fires!)

Laura A said...

" I'm chuckling at GretchenJoanna's comment about the hodgepodge shaping up into a vision about the time everyone grew up and moved on..."

Me, too. And all those writers you mentioned are my favorites, too.

Gail said...

Great post.

Loved your question: I couldn't help but think, "What if she had memorized Milton instead?"